Have you ever imagined a life where you are free to go anywhere, just fly around the world, where you are answerable to nobody, fulfil all your passions or do silly things? Yes, we all have something of that kind in our minds which remains unaccomplished and have no hope that it will be done in the future. The reason being that as we grow, we set limits to ourselves, some of them are put by people associated to us, the rest is put upon by ourselves.

Now, I am going to tell a truth which you probably have not seen by yourself till now. Limits are not real. Yes, you read it right. As I have told you that these boundaries are set by us and other people of the society, so it is an illusion. People blindfold us for many reasons, often for our own safety. People with much experience than us, who are hurt by certain things and know the world, prevent us from going down the same path by setting limits.

The first step to live your life without limits is to be your own boss. Well, this is the hardest part, I believe. Most of us are stuck in responsibilities and jobs to fulfil. But make your ultimate motive to take charge of yourself if you want to set your life free.

We are often bound to stay in limits because of the so called status quo. We think that we have to maintain standards, behave in a certain way, dress in a certain style or smile in a certain way. Thus, we maintain our ‘fake’ self just to appear good in front of others. But the reality is, nobody cares after a certain time, they sometimes do not remember that at all. Hence, do not forget yourself while maintaining your status.

Well, to break your limits, you have to use your imagination and your creativity to the best level you can. Be curious because it is the thing that will make you keep learning. This is the thing which helped us know things and grow mentally since we were kids, so never let it die even as an adult. Imagine the best possible way so as to do other stuff you always dreamt of without much disrupting your current life.

Doing such things need patience. It is not a job of a night to think of a way to get out of our monotonous life and be free. But never let go off hope, keep that alive. Believe in yourself that you can break your limits. Save your precious energy by worrying less and do not stress yourself. It will take time but it will happen if you keep on thinking and doing as you planned.

Many a times we come across with setbacks and failures. These deeply affect our self-confidence. Overcoming the fear after a failure becomes hard for us. However, by making small changes in our life and changing our attitude towards dealing with certain things and situations, we can boost our self-confidence to a great extent. By working on your self-esteem over a period of time, you can really overcome your fear.
It is nearly impossible to give time to your plans about your future, uplift your position and be truly yourself if you have a low self-confidence. So, there are certain things you can do which can enhance your confidence about your own self.

Keep Yourself Well-Groomed

Change the way you dress if it needs to be. Maybe a nice haircut will make you feel nice. Go to shopping and reward yourself with grooming kits. If you feel that you are looking good to others, it will make you more confident and will dramatically change your personality.

Keep your Positivity Alive

Hardships change your vision towards your purpose. Now you may feel low and will want to do nothing towards it. Change this attitude. Life keeps on going and so would you have to. Often you cannot control your thoughts and negativity keeps on flowing in your mind. Try to work harder on it and replace them with positive thoughts. Make small goals to accomplish everyday. Once you start completing small goals, you get the confidence that you are still able to fulfil your purpose.

Know Yourself

When you are struggling with all those negative thoughts, you yourself become your enemy. To fight with your enemy, what do you do first? You try to know them better and better. Hence, in this situation, get to know yourself better. Think deep and meditate if possible. Analyze your strong as well as weak points. Think of your limitations and the possible measures you can take to extend it.

Be Good to Others

Show your kindness and generosity to others. Spread love and be compassionate. Do small and big favors and help as much as possible to those who are in need. Doing such things will make you feel good about yourself. When your self-confidence goes down, you take down your image in front of yourself. Being kind improves your thinking about yourself.

Plan

Your low self-confidence is often a result of failure to achieve something. Start planning new ways to achieve your goal. Get confident in the fact that now you have experience of the journey. So, prepare yourself as much as possible.

In this world, we all have a purpose to fulfil. We have goals and responsibilities. In the midst of everything and doing things to achieve the purpose of our lives we often forget ourselves. And more than that we make us suffer without even sometimes knowing it. We live under stress and pressure and accept it as a way of life. These things lead us to irritation and other negative things.

However to live life in a good way we need positivity to surround us. Positive things and people give us feeling of relaxation. Then we can get going with doing what we have to do in our lives. Here, I am giving you all some tips on how to lead a positive life.

1. Try to stay physically healthy

A healthy mind resides in a healthy body. Take care of yourself physically and keep your body fit. Eat healthy diet and take proper rest. You can’t even think properly if you are unable to distract your attention from your sick and unhealthy body. Also a healthy body boosts you confidence and hence induce positivity in you thinking.

2. Read and Listen to Positive Things

Make it your regular habit to read good books which motivates you along with entertaining you. A good book is your best friend. Make the choice of books you read wisely. Take suggestion from your friends, family or colleagues. Books go deep into your mind and induce their message in a sub-conscious way. Hence, read inspiring stories, fictions and biographies.

Along with reading listening also goes deep into your mind and action. Listen to motivational speeches and surround yourself with people who stay positive and also lead a positive life.

3. Give Space to Yourself

Make time for yourself from your busy schedule. Meditation is a good way to spend time with yourself. Introspect and observe things around you. In this way you will find peace and know yourself better. Have a keen observation for the connectivity of body and soul. Develop a spiritual feeling for this. Not only your body and mind contributes you, your spirit also contributed to your positive wellness.

4. Remember to Smile

A good laugh can make your day. If you had a gloomy day, were not able to do pretty much thing and had a feeling of dissatisfaction, remember to smile. I know it is difficult to do so, but your day could have been worse. Smile because you love yourself anyway. Have people around you who make you smile and laugh.

5. Sharpen your Social Skills

Having people around you is good for you. Happiness comes from interaction and fun with people. Improve your communication and social skills to enhance the quality of your life. The good thing with being social is you focus outward instead of inward, thus not focusing on the negativity in your life.

We face different kind of obstacles in our day to day life. Some of them are the ones for which we are prepared for, some of those are the ones we are not prepared for. Some of them are predictable, some are not. Obstacles are necessary in the path of success as they prepare us for hardships and make us strong. But there are some things that should be kept in mind to deal with obstacles which are mentioned as follows.

Sometimes the real obstacle is you yourself. We sometimes fear that we are unable to achieve anything and thus unable to succeed. This fear makes us paralyzed to make the next step. We do not believe our own ability to succeed. Every obstacle that comes from the
outside world can be hurdled if you believe in yourself. There is no chance to fight the world if you are the one stopping yourself.



The second thing we are afraid of is the obstacle itself. Even before facing anything, we fear the possibility to fail in dealing with any of it. Off course, it is inevitable that you will have to face problems and obstacles, but do not ever let it keep you down and inactive. The only way to go and grow further is to move forward anyway. Obstacles teach you a lot. Hence, instead of fearing it, take it as a challenge. For this, you will have to think of unique and creative ways but if you want something that badly, you will eventually find a way.

Pre-planning and preparing is a good way to tackle obstacles. Use your and others’ experience to make yourself prepared. Expect what is to come because in this way your life will disrupt lesser than what it would have been if you were not prepared. Pay attention to every possible detail and the consequences. The more efficiently you predict, the more confident you are. This eventually makes you a smarter person.

Obstacles vary in their nature. Some are easy and some are not depending on your experience and the ability to deal with them. But not for even a single time, take any obstacle lightly. Underestimating the situation makes it more of a threat to you and the concerned persons. Experience makes you good at a thing but do not let it make you over-confident. Keep your feet on earth and anticipate the situation as far as you can.

So,

Do not worry so much, make yourself disciplined and organized, keep your energy saved and pre-plan for every situation that is to come. Remember to think of the consequences before taking every single step.

Life is not a smooth sail. It goes through sunshines and shadows, hardships and happiness. It has its own twists and turns, sometimes known, sometimes unknown. Sometimes it is predictable, sometimes it is not. Life has unique uncertainties, and that's what makes it beautiful and interesting.

Uncertainties in life test us and our abilities. They make us stronger, stronger for other uncertainties and hardships to come. Both hard as well as merry times are unpredictable. Along with difficulties, life sometimes presents you with happiness as a reward for what you have gone through, and thus energizing you enough to face what's ahead.


But if you are going through one of those 'unpredictable' times, you should always keep these in mind:

Have a Strong Grip on your Willpower

Never, ever let go off your hope and will power. In the hardest times your will keeps you alive and motivated and makes you stay positive about things. Life may make things slip from your hands like sand, but trust your inner self enough that you will make through such situations.

Pain is a very good Motivator

Yes, you heard it right. But only if you accept it. Denial of pain only gives you more of it. But if you make this weakness of yours a strength, nothing better than pain gets you going. And if you make pain your best friend, then nothing else in this whole world can beat you.

Patience is the Key

Remember than winning does not come eventually, it takes time and effort. The more patient you are, the more fruitful is your gain. So, do not get broken if it is taking time.

You are not Alone

Wipe out the words "Why me" from your dictionary. Life tests different persons in different ways. The very truth of life is that is is unfair. Accept that it is so and instead of whining for your hardships, focus on getting a solution and to stay positive.

Accepting the problem changes the nature of the problem. The diamond wouldn't have stood out shining if it weren't pressurized so much.

Right from we came into this world, we have been growing up ever since, both emotionally as well as physically. We learn how to do stuff, we learn how to talk, what to talk, then we learn how to get around everything and everyone. We learn and people as well as situations teach us. It's a two way process. These people and situations are the great masters of our life. Some are the same kind of people and situations we face, and some of them differ for different people. In this post I will talk about a few of the many great masters of out lives.

Parents

For most of us, the first person we meet after coming to this world are our parents. They nurture and take care of us. We tend to follow them and walk on the paths they lead us through. They constitute in the very basic nature that we conceive. They help us through our decisions and are always there for us.

Life

By life, I mean all the happenings and situations we face. Time makes us face the best and the worst. Dealing with these create our experiences that help us facing further situations. The life works like this and eventually makes us wiser and wiser. In life the one who is the fittest survives. We all know, it works out like this only since the evolution of life on earth.

Teachers

Teachers are the next essential forming factors of our lives after our parents. Apart from educating, they shape our thoughts. If parents are our roots then teachers are the sunlight which gives the direction to grow towards. Through their knowledge and experiences they help us and teach us to stand tall and straight through the storms of life.

Friends

Friends are the ones who are contemporary to us and thus are emotionally supportive elements of life. They remind us that we are not alone. They may be not experienced like our parents and teachers, but they exactly know and feel what we face. They are stars in a dark night who keep reminding us to not leave hope.

Enemies

Foes are as important as friends, yin and yang of our life. Enemies help us distinguish who our friends are. They put challenges and obstacles and are the troublemakers of our life. But hey! how we are supposed to know to combat any trouble if no one puts us through it. That's why enemies are important.

The list is never-ending one. But the above mentioned people and factors are the ones who shape the road of our life.

The world of ours is round. We just keep going without sometimes thinking about the consequences it may bring if we have to face it in the future. But the nature of past is that it keeps coming to you. Whether you want it or not, people and situations keep reminding you your past, especially if you didn't have a good one. It hurts more when your present and probably future is better then before.

Sometimes we just don't want to face and realize what we did or what happened to us and we remain in the fear of the past coming to us. But facing your fear is the best solution to overcome it. It is best not to give anyone the power to fill you with fear.

One day the hourglass will flip, one day you have to face your fears, one day you will meet yourself. You will see how you have changed and at the same time you will realize how you just cannot change something. Each and everything will eventually come to you whether you want it or not. One day truth will meet you.

Life is a series of achievements and losses. Among all these we all want to achieve happiness, a true one. But what restrains us from achieving it is none other than ourselves. It is a bitter truth of our lives, whether accept it or not, we ourselves prevent us to be happy. Because of our own selves we limit us to live our life fully and to fulfill our dreams.

We are so much lost in thoughts of what we have lost that we are not able to see what's right in front of us. How can we live in the present when we are holding back the past. When we are thinking about something or someone we lost, or something we cannot get, or in the sorrow of a defeat, we are losing nothing but ourselves and our precious time. All these insecurities, jealousy, negativity, stubbornness, expectations just destroys us.

So why make the life more and more complicated. To enjoy what's in the present we must know to let go off the past, the things which cannot be ours, the persons who are not meant to be in our lives. We are human beings, we cannot completely forget all these, but what we must know is letting go.

Just remember there's nothing like perfect life, we don't always get what we want. Don't depend on others for your own happiness. Fall in love yourself first and see how beautiful life actually is.

Are you really satisfied with what you have? Ask this question to yourself and I think that most of the answer will be NO either clear or confused. Really, lucky are those people who are actually satisfied with what they have, isn't it!

Do you know what's special in this modern world? It is that people are running behind something or the other. It is the thirst in their life that make them do so. Now there are two aspects of this thirst, it can be either positive or negative.

Modernisation is the key to the growth of every civilisation. Now if the people who constitute the civilisation are satisfied with whatever they have or whatever they are then there will be no progress at all. So, if we see the thirst according to this thought then it is absolutely positive.

People need something new for their need or greed. Now, the point from where the greed starts the negative aspect of the thirst starts then itself. When people are blindly running behind money, reputation and all the worldly things this thirst ruins them and the civilisation both.

Ask yourself that what are your dreams and when your dreams are fulfilled ask this question to yourself again and keep continuing this process. Every time you will get some new answer. Now, you yourself judge that are your answers positive or negative. And for me I have thirst to read, write and learn something new, creatively and this is absolutely positive. Otherwise, the blog will have its full stop which I don't want!

Life makes us to see many upheavals; sometimes it lets us to face failure and the other time to face success. These are the two very opposite but true ends of the string of life. And these two phases only make our life balanced. One takes us up and the other let us fall. At this point, I would like to point out that I have not mentioned which phase takes us up and which one brings us down. This is just because this decision depends entirely on us.

It is a very common or we can say a general trend to have the feeling of superiority when we go through the phase of success. We are the only ones who let us think that we are at the top. But at this point introspection is a must. We should think over and over that is this success a permanent one, are we not giving ourselves a boost more than which is required by us. So according to my view, this phase of success should be the one to bring us down. This ‘bringing down’ should not be misunderstood with failure, it only means bringing our entire ego, the feeling of superiority down, and hence, at this stage we make our life balanced.

Another general trend is to think ourselves as inferior ones when we face failure. It is said that humans grow their grief by thinking more and more about the cause of the grief. We bring ourselves and our abilities more and more down. We see successful people around and instead of taking inspiration from them we tend to grow a feeling of repulsion from them and the inferiority complex starts growing. Now, I would like to tell that whatever may be the situation, one should...no, no…must take oneself up, one must give oneself a boost because

We ourselves are the biggest helpers for us.

Hence, in the phase of failure also, we can make our life balanced. I know these are not so easy, but it has to be done, otherwise we will be the only ones to destroy ourselves.

Any point of life can be a new phase of life...

Many times of our lives we loss many things...and many people which and who are very near to us...near to our heart. Sometimes intentionally and sometimes not, this very pinching and pain giving situation does come.

When caught in this web, people become a fish out of water, dying and searching for at least a drop of water which is equivalent to a small bit of happiness for people in their lives.

Many a times we know that the things...or people many never come back, but this doesn't mean that this will lead us to lose the hope...for hope is the basic foundation leading us to search whatever is lost.

On the other side of it, we have to make ourselves understand the fact that we came in this world alone and will depart from her taking nothing or nobody along us. Gain or loss is the part and parcel our lives, it's wholly a worldly matter.

We may not get what we have lost but lost can be compensated by other means.

It depends wholly on us...to use which medicine to cure the particular sort of wound in our heart.

First of all I would like to ask you to think of a world in which nobody has ever imagined anything...think. Knowingly or unknowingly you are also imagining something. Yeah...this is imagination. There are some things in this world which is not possible to define exactly what is it, and imagination is one of the terms. If it has, I am not able to imagine it now.

If you have imagined that kind of world...can you see anything around, which is like that of today's world. Like you all I am also trying to imagine that kinda world. And I do not see anything, just humans and animals roaming here and there and doing nothing, because to do something, one has to even imagine how to start it. I think in this way, all the species would have to end very soon.

So you can imagine how the world will be without imagination...

Think if the human beings never imagined of anything and any development weren't there, the conclusions would be like, fire, electricity, etc. never invented because I can see that world (which I have mentioned above) in which Faraday is sitting ideally, Newton is sleeping under the Apple tree looking at the falling apples as everybody looks at it and so on...

So what are you all waiting for???

Do the simple mental exercise of imagining about something every moment...once you will start it, you will do it as long as that time which is beyond your imagination...