Dealing with stress is a very difficult condition which keeps you low and your mind nearly blocked. You cannot think of any possible solution to get out of it. Sometimes staying motivated is also very difficult for a very positive person when he or she is in extreme stress. But like always, giving up is not an option. If you do not keep calm, you may be missing the possibility to get the situation solved. Your stress may be because of a few things in your life, but because of that you may be ruining other matters of concern.

And that, my friend, is what they call a closure!
- F.R.I.E.N.D.S

Year 2017 has come to an end and the new fresh era of 2018 is starting. Every year in this transition, everyone around the world becomes busy celebrating and partying. Some plan to make the coming year even better and more productive, because for many of us, new year is like a mark to start all over again.

So is the old year really a closure? Yes, for many of us it is. But we do carry the memories, achievements as well as mistakes along with us. As human beings we should never forget what mistakes we have made in order to correct it and never repeat it. So, the best way to start the new year is to take along the things of the past infiltrating only the things essential for you to grow.
A practice that many of us follow is to make new year resolutions. Well, then we try to complete them, succeeding or failing in order to do so. To succeed, try to complete them, one small task at a time and by giving yourself mini-goals. In this way many small things will be accomplished and you will get a self-satisfaction of completing so many targets.

So, a very happy new year to you and share your new year resolutions in the comment section below!

Have you ever imagined a life where you are free to go anywhere, just fly around the world, where you are answerable to nobody, fulfil all your passions or do silly things? Yes, we all have something of that kind in our minds which remains unaccomplished and have no hope that it will be done in the future. The reason being that as we grow, we set limits to ourselves, some of them are put by people associated to us, the rest is put upon by ourselves.

Now, I am going to tell a truth which you probably have not seen by yourself till now. Limits are not real. Yes, you read it right. As I have told you that these boundaries are set by us and other people of the society, so it is an illusion. People blindfold us for many reasons, often for our own safety. People with much experience than us, who are hurt by certain things and know the world, prevent us from going down the same path by setting limits.

The first step to live your life without limits is to be your own boss. Well, this is the hardest part, I believe. Most of us are stuck in responsibilities and jobs to fulfil. But make your ultimate motive to take charge of yourself if you want to set your life free.

We are often bound to stay in limits because of the so called status quo. We think that we have to maintain standards, behave in a certain way, dress in a certain style or smile in a certain way. Thus, we maintain our ‘fake’ self just to appear good in front of others. But the reality is, nobody cares after a certain time, they sometimes do not remember that at all. Hence, do not forget yourself while maintaining your status.

Well, to break your limits, you have to use your imagination and your creativity to the best level you can. Be curious because it is the thing that will make you keep learning. This is the thing which helped us know things and grow mentally since we were kids, so never let it die even as an adult. Imagine the best possible way so as to do other stuff you always dreamt of without much disrupting your current life.

Doing such things need patience. It is not a job of a night to think of a way to get out of our monotonous life and be free. But never let go off hope, keep that alive. Believe in yourself that you can break your limits. Save your precious energy by worrying less and do not stress yourself. It will take time but it will happen if you keep on thinking and doing as you planned.

Many a times we come across with setbacks and failures. These deeply affect our self-confidence. Overcoming the fear after a failure becomes hard for us. However, by making small changes in our life and changing our attitude towards dealing with certain things and situations, we can boost our self-confidence to a great extent. By working on your self-esteem over a period of time, you can really overcome your fear.
It is nearly impossible to give time to your plans about your future, uplift your position and be truly yourself if you have a low self-confidence. So, there are certain things you can do which can enhance your confidence about your own self.

Keep Yourself Well-Groomed

Change the way you dress if it needs to be. Maybe a nice haircut will make you feel nice. Go to shopping and reward yourself with grooming kits. If you feel that you are looking good to others, it will make you more confident and will dramatically change your personality.

Keep your Positivity Alive

Hardships change your vision towards your purpose. Now you may feel low and will want to do nothing towards it. Change this attitude. Life keeps on going and so would you have to. Often you cannot control your thoughts and negativity keeps on flowing in your mind. Try to work harder on it and replace them with positive thoughts. Make small goals to accomplish everyday. Once you start completing small goals, you get the confidence that you are still able to fulfil your purpose.

Know Yourself

When you are struggling with all those negative thoughts, you yourself become your enemy. To fight with your enemy, what do you do first? You try to know them better and better. Hence, in this situation, get to know yourself better. Think deep and meditate if possible. Analyze your strong as well as weak points. Think of your limitations and the possible measures you can take to extend it.

Be Good to Others

Show your kindness and generosity to others. Spread love and be compassionate. Do small and big favors and help as much as possible to those who are in need. Doing such things will make you feel good about yourself. When your self-confidence goes down, you take down your image in front of yourself. Being kind improves your thinking about yourself.

Plan

Your low self-confidence is often a result of failure to achieve something. Start planning new ways to achieve your goal. Get confident in the fact that now you have experience of the journey. So, prepare yourself as much as possible.

We live in a city called life which gives us roads to walk and destination to go. We either succeed in reaching there or we fail. Failure is an invincible thing, you cannot skip it or overpower it. This is a sure thing to come if you have goals to fulfil. Therefore, you must always expect it to come so as to lessen your fear of it. Remember, failure is not that bad, it only proves that you are a human being who tried.

We can fail at many things – sticking to the New Year resolution, overcoming an addiction, completing career goals, getting good grades, relationships, a long list goes on like this. Failure at most of the times induces negativity in us. Our hopes slowly start fading as does our ability to get over it and take the next step. We start blaming us or others because of whom we failed.


Remember, there is an opportunity whether small or big every time you fail and in all of your setbacks. Your perspective of seeing a failure decides if you see that opportunity. If success creates a good leader then failure creates a good guide. If you cannot tell others the right path, you can always tell them which path not to go. Now you know what not to do if you want to succeed the next time. A failure only draws you near success every time it happens. This makes failure a very necessary part of life.

To move on with your life and find positivity, firstly you must admit and accept the failure. Sometimes you become so lost in your purpose that you find it hard to believe that you failed. You think that you tried so hard that it is unacceptable to fail. But your growth starts with accepting that you were unable to succeed in you purpose.

You are not alone who failed. Lots of people in this world who tried to achieve anything failed at least once. You can always find comfort in this fact. You can find lots and lots of examples of such people. Like that if you fail try to be an example.

Even after failure, try not to give up ever. If you are determined in achieving something, you will eventually find a way. Hope should be the only thing in your life that should keep you alive. Just follow you mission and you purpose. Your success is waiting somewhere for you and failures are just roadblocks. It is your choice whether you want to meet it or not.

In life we all need company to keep us occupied and to share our world. Friends are an essential factor in our mental growth. When we are kids they decide what to play, when we are teens they shape our thoughts, when we are adults they become a partner in our actions. In any way they keep us occupied and prevent us from being lonely especially in difficult times. As we grow our choice of friends change. First quantity would be a factor and then later on quality will start making influence in our choices.

Now, we always tend to focus on having good friends, friends who will support us through ups and downs. We are always preoccupied with having friends rather than being one, a good one. If we try to care about being a good person for someone else, just think how the world can change. Instead of keeping expectation from others why not be an example of a good friend.


Remember, a good friend always keeps his or her company motivated. He or she should always be supportive in their friends’ good motives and guide them to choose the right path. People often tend to deviate towards wrong path, and that is where a good friend becomes a strong wall to keep their friend away from going there.

For being a motivational friend you should first focus on being a good person. You should keep your life as positive as possible so that it can have a good influence over people in your lives. People subconsciously notice your behavior and attitude towards various situations of life. Whenever you are in a presence of a friend, keep them inspired through your speech and action.

Be a person on whom your friend can trust and do not be judgmental about your friend. Respect is always earned, show respect to everyone in your friend circle and in return they too will respect you. Be a company with whom your friends can enjoy and talk their heart out. Loyalty matters a lot in friendship, maintain loyalty with your friends, keep their secret a secret if they want it to because there is no remedy of a broken trust.

If you are to be a supportive stem to your friend, learn the art of listening and be patient with it. Try to understand their point of view. After that ask them what help they need and tell them that you are there for them and the extent to which you can help. You should always keep a good communication to make your friends feel that they are being heard.

If you want to have good friends, you should be one first. Help each other to fulfil a good purpose. Use your experience to teach one another in their missions. Keep your friends morally clean, warn them if they are going in any wrong direction. Always keep giving advises and suggestions to be positive in their lives.