We face different kind of obstacles in our day to day life. Some of them are the ones for which we are prepared for, some of those are the ones we are not prepared for. Some of them are predictable, some are not. Obstacles are necessary in the path of success as they prepare us for hardships and make us strong. But there are some things that should be kept in mind to deal with obstacles which are mentioned as follows.

Sometimes the real obstacle is you yourself. We sometimes fear that we are unable to achieve anything and thus unable to succeed. This fear makes us paralyzed to make the next step. We do not believe our own ability to succeed. Every obstacle that comes from the
outside world can be hurdled if you believe in yourself. There is no chance to fight the world if you are the one stopping yourself.



The second thing we are afraid of is the obstacle itself. Even before facing anything, we fear the possibility to fail in dealing with any of it. Off course, it is inevitable that you will have to face problems and obstacles, but do not ever let it keep you down and inactive. The only way to go and grow further is to move forward anyway. Obstacles teach you a lot. Hence, instead of fearing it, take it as a challenge. For this, you will have to think of unique and creative ways but if you want something that badly, you will eventually find a way.

Pre-planning and preparing is a good way to tackle obstacles. Use your and others’ experience to make yourself prepared. Expect what is to come because in this way your life will disrupt lesser than what it would have been if you were not prepared. Pay attention to every possible detail and the consequences. The more efficiently you predict, the more confident you are. This eventually makes you a smarter person.

Obstacles vary in their nature. Some are easy and some are not depending on your experience and the ability to deal with them. But not for even a single time, take any obstacle lightly. Underestimating the situation makes it more of a threat to you and the concerned persons. Experience makes you good at a thing but do not let it make you over-confident. Keep your feet on earth and anticipate the situation as far as you can.

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Do not worry so much, make yourself disciplined and organized, keep your energy saved and pre-plan for every situation that is to come. Remember to think of the consequences before taking every single step.

Life is full of up and downs. At times happiness surrounds you and at other times you struggle to get out of your hardships like there is no end to it. You feel like choking in the smoke of negativity and slowly losing all your hopes. As you go through this phase, you may be so much saturated with negative thoughts that you may accept the situation as a way of life.

It is a fact that you cannot change what the situations are, but you can change your attitude towards it. By building small bits of positivity around you just like small drops of water builds an ocean, you can cope through the situation and may ultimately find any solution to beat it.

Never let your hope die. This is rather easy to say but hope is the only light in the darkness and mist of negativity and hardships. You cannot let the light go off. Remember that there is no such thing as darkness, it is only the absence of light. Just like that, hope keeps your soul alive.

There will be things in your control and things that will not be. Try to learn the difference. Don’t cry over spilt milk. Do not worry on things which cannot possibly change. These kinds of situation makes a human being think it over and over, making him or her entangled and unable to make some progress. Things may not always turn out to suit your best, but sooner you get over it, the quicker you will be able to take your next step.

Choose your company wisely. Live in the presence of people who lift you up and stay with you in your hard times. A nice and motivating company in these situations can change your attitude towards negativity to a great deal. You feel like you are not alone, because loneliness only makes you worse. Along with nice people, find nice books to read and listen to positive things. When you read uplifting and inspiring articles you feel motivated.

In the road of life you may have done several mistakes. It is all right to do it being a human. But it is the act of a foolish human being to repeat his or her mistakes. Mistakes are for learning, not repeating. Also mistakes give you more lessons than success. Observe yourself and think what to do so as to not get to the wrong path where you previously went. Now that you know the path, tackle the situation differently.

When you struggle, you will find victories, small or big. Celebrate every one of it because you deserve to be rewarded. Celebration cheers and boosts you up, thus making you ready and charged for the journey ahead.

It is known to all that most of the people are working in a job that they somewhat do not like or do not like at all. The unfriendly work environment makes such job even worse. Situations and people like your moody boss, nasty co-workers and bad company policies make your life worse than hell in your workplace.

But if quitting immediately is not your option and you want to go on with your job anyway because you have to grow your career and become financially stable or if you have a family to support, you have to find some ways to be at peace at work.

The best way is to not take things personally. People at your workplace matter only at your workplace; do not involve them or their opinion personally, especially if it is influencing you negatively. You have to fully understand and accept that there are things which you can change and then there are things you cannot. Whenever you feel low, reconnect with the purpose and goal you want to achieve in your life. It is the best motivation when you are feeling negative.

Now, whatever mentioned here is off course easier said than done. Here are some ways which you can follow so as to calm your mind and focus on your goals.

1. Communication

The first way is to communicate. If you are not able to understand something or feeling that you are getting into a misunderstanding, communicate immediately, do not delay. The longer you take, the complex the situation may become. Communication is also necessary to convey your message effectively and let others understand you in a better way. Be as detailed as it needs to be and speak professionally.

2. Stay Away from Drama

Yes, it is necessary to communicate, but not unnecessarily. There may be people at you workplace who love to create dramas and may also want you to involve. Remember, however entertaining these dramatic situations may seem, they always waste your precious time and sometimes energy. These situations may also give you unnecessary mental stress and thus making you unable to focus on your job. So stay away from dramatic people and unnecessary gossips.

3. Find Places to Relief Stress

Find a place or some activity though which you can relax yourself. A cafeteria nearby, a small break, lunch with a friend, a good book or meditation for a few minutes can do the work. Whatever you find relaxing, include it in your daily work schedule.

4. Establish some boundaries

Maintain certain limits for people at the workplace. Learning to say no is the first and foremost necessary. It may seem hard, but it will be worth it. Do not let anyone involve in your personal life unless they are really worth it. The place is full of office politics, so don’t let anyone take advantage of you.

5. Don’t Carry Work at Home

If you have already felt negativity at your workplace, why carry it at home. Home should be a place full of positivity and relaxation, where you can be comfortable. Try not to think and do stuff which you do at work unless very necessary.

Life is not a smooth sail. It goes through sunshines and shadows, hardships and happiness. It has its own twists and turns, sometimes known, sometimes unknown. Sometimes it is predictable, sometimes it is not. Life has unique uncertainties, and that's what makes it beautiful and interesting.

Uncertainties in life test us and our abilities. They make us stronger, stronger for other uncertainties and hardships to come. Both hard as well as merry times are unpredictable. Along with difficulties, life sometimes presents you with happiness as a reward for what you have gone through, and thus energizing you enough to face what's ahead.


But if you are going through one of those 'unpredictable' times, you should always keep these in mind:

Have a Strong Grip on your Willpower

Never, ever let go off your hope and will power. In the hardest times your will keeps you alive and motivated and makes you stay positive about things. Life may make things slip from your hands like sand, but trust your inner self enough that you will make through such situations.

Pain is a very good Motivator

Yes, you heard it right. But only if you accept it. Denial of pain only gives you more of it. But if you make this weakness of yours a strength, nothing better than pain gets you going. And if you make pain your best friend, then nothing else in this whole world can beat you.

Patience is the Key

Remember than winning does not come eventually, it takes time and effort. The more patient you are, the more fruitful is your gain. So, do not get broken if it is taking time.

You are not Alone

Wipe out the words "Why me" from your dictionary. Life tests different persons in different ways. The very truth of life is that is is unfair. Accept that it is so and instead of whining for your hardships, focus on getting a solution and to stay positive.

Accepting the problem changes the nature of the problem. The diamond wouldn't have stood out shining if it weren't pressurized so much.

Right from we came into this world, we have been growing up ever since, both emotionally as well as physically. We learn how to do stuff, we learn how to talk, what to talk, then we learn how to get around everything and everyone. We learn and people as well as situations teach us. It's a two way process. These people and situations are the great masters of our life. Some are the same kind of people and situations we face, and some of them differ for different people. In this post I will talk about a few of the many great masters of out lives.

Parents

For most of us, the first person we meet after coming to this world are our parents. They nurture and take care of us. We tend to follow them and walk on the paths they lead us through. They constitute in the very basic nature that we conceive. They help us through our decisions and are always there for us.

Life

By life, I mean all the happenings and situations we face. Time makes us face the best and the worst. Dealing with these create our experiences that help us facing further situations. The life works like this and eventually makes us wiser and wiser. In life the one who is the fittest survives. We all know, it works out like this only since the evolution of life on earth.

Teachers

Teachers are the next essential forming factors of our lives after our parents. Apart from educating, they shape our thoughts. If parents are our roots then teachers are the sunlight which gives the direction to grow towards. Through their knowledge and experiences they help us and teach us to stand tall and straight through the storms of life.

Friends

Friends are the ones who are contemporary to us and thus are emotionally supportive elements of life. They remind us that we are not alone. They may be not experienced like our parents and teachers, but they exactly know and feel what we face. They are stars in a dark night who keep reminding us to not leave hope.

Enemies

Foes are as important as friends, yin and yang of our life. Enemies help us distinguish who our friends are. They put challenges and obstacles and are the troublemakers of our life. But hey! how we are supposed to know to combat any trouble if no one puts us through it. That's why enemies are important.

The list is never-ending one. But the above mentioned people and factors are the ones who shape the road of our life.

We all strive to be successful in our lives. Either in our jobs or in a relation or any small or big work, we all at least try be be successful. But in our endeavor to excel at almost everything we do, we forget ourselves, we forget that it is we who we need to take care of first. Work, life and people in it are important, but we are as important as them, sometimes more important.

Our minds need stress to operate, which is a downside of our mind. Everybody deal with some level of stress in their daily lives. However, prolonged stress is harmful for both us and our work. The following are 5 ways in which successful people manage to stay calm.

Being Grateful

You need to appreciate people, and all incidents of your life. That's because both people around you and happenings shape and change the course of your life. They are the reason you are the way you are. And in the long run these two factors will be the reason of anything you become.

It also a positive impact on your body as it reduces your stress level.

Not Asking "What if"

There are a million possibilities of what could have happened and what will happen. Thinking about them over and over is simply wasting your time and valuable energy. It will just create anxiety and stress in you.

To be successful at anything, you first need to stay in the present and accept the situation you cannot change.

Being Positive

Our brain naturally diverts to thinking negative things. Staying positive is most of the times hard. But one positive thought can shift your focus. If there is nothing positive that has happened today, think of something good that has happened earlier or is to be happened in the near future. You need to stay positive to have a balanced mindset.

Disconnecting

You need to stay away from the grid at least for some time to feel refreshed and rejuvenated. This is a world full of social technology and technological happenings surrounding us. Switch off your phone or disconnect from the internet for some time to feel the change.

It is sometimes very difficult to escape work and responsibilities. But try to make some time just for yourself.

Making Sure to Get Enough Rest

Our body is a biological machine. It needs rest like it needs fuel in the form of food. So, you need to get adequate sleep at night for yourself. Sleep causes our brain to recharge and defragment. So that when we wake up we stay alert and level-headed.

When we don't sleep enough, our levels of self control on ourselves, attention in things, memory and retention power, everything suffers.

So remember,

You are important.